if you have 20 minutes free today. . .

I have seen the end of this clip before, but never the whole thing, and I think the ideas are framed and fleshed out so much better when presented in their entirety. 

Some snippets:

Apparently the word "courage" comes from the Latin "cor," or "heart" and originally meant to tell the story of who you are with your whole heart. 

She said, As it turns out, we can't practice compassion with other people if we can't treat ourselves kindly

. . .  

This researcher found in her studies that those who she called the "wholehearted" had the courgage to be imperfect. . . they fully embraced vulnerability, they firmly believed that what made them vulverable made them beautiful. . . .

She found we have to stop controlling and predicting, and live with vulnerability. . . the way the wholehearted live. . . .

She found that vulnerability is kinda the core of shame and fear and our struggle for worthiness, but it appears it's also the birthplace of joy, of creativity, of belonging, of love. . . .

You can't numb those hard feelings without numbing the other . . . emotions.  You can't selectively numb.  So when we numb those, we numb joy, gratitude, happiness, and then we are miserable and we are looking for purpose and meaning, and then we feel vulnerable. . . and it becomes this dangerous cycle. . . .

Hmmmmmm.  Some really good thinking there, none of which at all applies to me recently.* 

(But all of which points to why the blogs I read and so appreciate are the ones that are REAL and embrace vulnerability--they represent a space where it is safe to be broken, where it is possible to be mended, where pain and suffering do not do not kill the spirit, but instead make it tender and ready for more hard things to safely fall upon. . . )


(If it annoys you to see a clipped video screen, I'm sorry about that--it's just the layout of this type of blog and nothing I can change at this point.  Go to this link to see where I found it in its entirety, and another blog that is feeding my spirit this week.)



*sarcasm